is always worth it
least that's what the Pros say
I feel like Alicia in this picture, "Why am I not understanding what
everyone else does?"
for an event is a struggle when you're naturally disorganized. We get
caught up with the wrong list of "to-do's". We daydream about
others perfect events. We spend countless hours reading up on how to make
ours the "world's best". Yet in the end, we feel disappointed and
even depressed because we failed to pull it off.
this season I want to suggest a new goal for you:
"Prepare for your celebration by looking in, not out"
1. Recall your most favorite
did you enjoy? What created the positive emotions you remember?
List what you saw, ate, heard, felt. No, I'm not a Psychologist, but
I do understand what makes me content or disappointed. When I sit down
and take the time to identify what prompted positive emotions I can usually
identify what I want to implement again to create those same
Hearing my kids laughter on Christmas morning. It
wasn't the perfect tree, the perfect gift or the perfect breakfast - it was the
silly Lifesaver Candy Book in their stocking. It brought back fun
memories for me and made them shake their heads in amazement that the candy is
My first Christmas with my husbands
family. It wasn't my outfit that made me feel good, it wasn't the mounds
of gifts under the tree, it was the apron I received from his Grandmother -
handmade and matching the ones she made for all the girls! I felt
accepted and loved. So, now I focus on how to make others feel accepted
and loved at my Christmas celebration.
favorite celebration and find the one thing that made it a special
memory. Find a way to instill that same joy in this years celebration.
2. What have you seen in past memorable
you think of a past special holiday, try to picture the scene. What
is there: a spectacular tree, a fully decorated
hearth or maybe it was a group of family members sitting around
there is a trap we set for ourselves of needing every detail to be picturesque
and yet most people only recall one major scene; no details. I encourage
you to spend your energy this season on major things; don't get
side tracked by small details.
the tree, do it up with all your imagination but don't worry about the rest of
the room; let the tree be the center of attention as guests and friends come
over. Is your past celebration memory about family gathered around
talking? Then create a great gathering place, but don't stress over your
outfit or the perfect center piece.
3. What are your strengths?
Do you love to bake amazing desserts? Do you create ornate
centerpieces? Do you find joy in sewing, quilting or stiching
beautifully? Do you feel best when you are serving someone?
Whatever it is, make appointments with yourself throughout the holidays to do those
things that use your strengths. Find what you enjoy best and use
your natural "gifts" to bless those around you.
I love to bake sweets. So, I will be making chocolate dipped pretzels,
Russian Tea Cakes and pumpkin cookies. I'll wrap them up and deliver them
to neighbors and friends. I enjoy small gatherings so I'll invite a
couple friends over. I'll do it at a time I can serve dessert. I
won't cause unnessary stress by trying to do things that aren't my strengths.
what filled you with joy in the past and use that memory to create new
memorable celebrations this year. Preparation now will provide a peacful
and enjoyable celebration this season.